New Year's

As I ponder all that has happened over the last year, I am amazed at where God has brought me from. I am so thankful for all that God is teaching me. I feel like I have entered a time in my life when God is growing me, training me, and purifying me. I love it!!!

He is convicting me to repair the breaches in my life. I have a mission and a purpose in my life. My direction is clear, even if the path to get there is not.

Earlier this week, I was overcome with the feeling that God does have a mate for me at some point in the future. I have prayed about it a multitude of times. I have been thinking about what I want in a future spouse; someone who loves Jesus Christ with everything in them, someone who loves their children and would be a Godly example to my children, someone who has a vision and a purpose for their life, and someone who is passionate about me and having a Christ-like marriage.

The thing is, God desires those qualities in ME. I need to ask MYSELF those questions. Am I loving God with all that is within me? Am I loving my children and being a good mother to them? Do I have a purpose and a vision for my life? Am I passionate about preparing for a Christ-like marriage?

You see, God is not so much worried about whether we are single, married, widowed, divorced, etc.......... He cares about our relationship with him. His ultimate goal is not our happiness, shocking as that sounds. Our purpose on this earth is to bring him glory. The only way to do so is to become his hands and feet. We can bring his love to others. We are the way he chooses to show himself to a lost and dying world. No matter where we find ourselves in life, we can always choose to be a servant. We can choose to let God be glorified in our lives.............

All my life I've heard these things, but now......I'm living it! My purpose, my mission is to seek God in ALL that I do.

Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths". That is my goal for this new year.

My prayer is that my walk with Christ will deepen to the point that, especially my children, will see the difference in me and will trust Christ too!!

I John 3:1-3 says, "Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore, the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not. Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure".

In addition, III John 1:4 says, "I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth".

When you have a mission, there is always the temptation to lose focus. Please pray for me, that my focus will be on Christ and what he is doing in my life. I need strength and wisdom to live out the plan that he has for me. I pray that any distractions would be removed, and that the Holy Spirit will be my protector and will enable me to do every good work that God has designed me to perform.

That is my prayer for you too...

The most exciting thing to me is that, for the past few years, all that God has told me to do is to stand still and not grow weary. Now, his message has changed. Now, his message is for me to make HIM my husband. To move into the calling that he has on my life, and to a greater time of faith and learning to trust him, and to learn to hear him and follow him completely. This is a year of action rather than patient waiting. This is a year to move forward boldly in the power of the Holy Spirit and take back the land that has been stolen by the enemy in the past. Make no mistake about it, there will be battles. But God has caused flowers to bloom in the middle of the desert. He has taken my brokeness and pain and turned into a future and a hope that is unshakable.

More Fear

The hardest thing for me during this season of healing is not having my kids home part of the time. It's so surreal dropping them off and picking them up from their dad's house. It's also really strange to think of my former mate as "their dad" rather than "my husband", although somewhere along the way, he has become just that to me emotionally. The grief has lessened as I have learned how to let go and move forward, but there are still occasional moments when I feel resentful at having to share them............with him and his newest girlfriend.

I was pondering that last night and realized that, although I have forgiven him, the root of this feeling is that I worry that they will like it better at his house and want to move in with him. I require them to do chores, I call them on their behavior, I expect them to do their homework, etc......... Dad's house is a series of expensive gifts, trips to the skating rink, and bonfires (all things he never would do when we were married). My fear threatens to suffocate me at times.

Is it possible that my worst fear could come true? YES!! It has a significant statistical likelihood of happening. The question then is what do I do? I am choosing to do the only thing I can. The same thing that God has taught me to do with all my fears........seek the Lord. We, as humans, actually have very little control over the people around us. The only person we can control is ourselves, and we do a bang-up job of that most of the time. We NEED Christ. We NEED to pour ourselves into him and say "Whatever comes, God is with me".

Believe it or not, I have work to do on my own self. In fact, fixing my issues will keep me busy until the Lord takes me home. Rather than panicking and worrying about my fear, I need to ask if my home is a place that children would want to be in. Is it safe? Do I love them unconditionally? Do I teach them right from wrong? Do I spend time with them individually and as a family just talking and laughing and being silly? Do I provide tasty and healthy meals for them and let them help with the cooking? Do they have friends here that can visit when boredom sets in?

I know it's not possible to be perfect but I have so much more that I could do to connect with my kids on an emotional level. That is what I choose to think about and act on, rather than operate out of fear. The only way past fear is to let go of it and allow God to be God and focus on the things that he is calling me to do.

I feel like Job when he said "For my sighing cometh before I eat, and my roarings are poured out like the waters. For the thing I feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me. I was not in safety, neither had I rest, neither was I quiet; yet trouble came". ~Job 3:24-26

If that verse is true, these verses bring me comfort that surpasses any fear that remains. "I sought the LORD, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears. They looked unto him, and were lightened: and their faces were not ashamed. This poor man cried, and the LORD heard him, and saved him out of all his troubles. The angel of the LORD encampeth round about them that fear him, and delivereth them. O taste and see that the LORD is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him. O fear the LORD, ye his saints: for there is no want to them that fear him. The young lions do lack, and suffer hunger: but they that seek the LORD shall not want any good thing." ~Psalms 34:4-10

It is a good thing to seek the Lord. It brings peace and comfort and joy and a purpose for living. There have been so many times that things were so awful in my marriage and since my marriage ended, but there has been one constant in my life.... God has always been there. I cannot count the number of times that I have fallen apart and he has always been there to hold me and comfort me and lift my face up and help me to go on. I would encourage you to turn to him, if you are experiencing emotional pain today. I promise he will meet you right where you are and be God to you!

Changes.............

For those of you who do not know....... I am now a divorced woman. I have not posted here regularly because I have been in severe emotional upheaval. Things did not work out, and maybe someday, when the time is right, I will elaborate. For now, the wounds are still fresh, the future uncertain. The only things that have carried me through are Jesus, my family, and my friends.

I am still grieving the loss, but I'm also excited about the future. I plan to focus on my kids and serving God in whatever capacity that is.

Looking back over my life, I can clearly see the hand of God. He has brought me so far! When I think of him, all I can manage to do is fall down on my knees and thank him for having a plan, for picking me up when I fall, and for loving me unconditionally. What an honor to live my life for him!

Eternal Life

I just thought I'd share something that happened a few days ago. I was thinking
about death and having to face Jesus. I was feeling really scared and wondering
if I'd done enough. All of a sudden, I had an image come into my head of Jesus
standing there with his arms open. Every time I started to tally up my good vs
bad deeds, the image would return. I finally got the message.... He is WAITING
for me to come home. All the good, bad, and ugly will stay here on earth. My
Savior is standing there waiting for me to come home. Jesus already completed
his mission here on earth, now it's my turn. He is here in spirit (Holy Ghost)
helping me through this journey. And when it's over, I'll be with him...period,
end of sentence.

My physical flesh acts like a prison. It keeps me in the shadows where things
sometimes become fuzzy and confused. I am living in the domain of evil. The
lures of the flesh are almost like being tortured. Sometimes we do things that
are wrong before we even catch ourselves or realize that it's wrong.

The Father knew that, and he planned for that, and sent his Son to make a way
for us to be made clean. Jesus went back to heaven, but he left the Holy Spirit
here to act as a guide through the many pitfalls in life. The HS keeps us on
the right track. When life is over, I will shed this flesh and go be with HIM!

What a blessing when God puts peace in our hearts and lets us know that we are
his! I didn't speak in tongues or become hysterical, it was just the sweet,
presence of God's spirit that spoke to my heart. That's what it's about.
That's what Paul and the apostles tried to get across over and over and over
again in the New Testament. Men get tripped up over doctrine, and when they do,
they completely miss God's plan for Salvation and life with him.

Was Abraham a Hebrew???

I was thinking about Abraham and how God called him, a Gentile, out and set him apart. God made some promises to him and he believed God. As a result, he became circumcised to show that he was set apart unto God. The Hebrew race was began by a man who was himself a Gentile!

Romans 4:9-12
⁹Cometh this blessedness then upon the circumcision only, or upon the uncircumcision also? for we say that faith was reckoned to Abraham for righteousness.

¹⁰How was it then reckoned? when he was in circumcision, or in uncircumcision? Not in circumcision, but in uncircumcision.

¹¹And he received the sign of circumcision, a seal of the righteousness of the faith which he had yet being uncircumcised: that he might be the father of all them that believe, though they be not circumcised; that righteousness might be imputed unto them also:

¹²And the father of circumcision to them who are not of the circumcision only, but who also walk in the steps of that faith of our father Abraham, which he had being yet uncircumcised.

This was alluded to in Acts Chapter 7:1-8 when Stephen told them where the twelve tribes of Israel began.....a gentile. This caused the Sanhedrin court to become white with rage toward him and, along with the things Stephen said about the other patriarchs, caused him to ultimately be killed.

^{Acts 7:1}Then said the high priest, Are these things so?

²And he said, Men, brethren, and fathers, hearken; The God of glory appeared unto our father Abraham, when he was in Mesopotamia, before he dwelt in Charran,

³And said unto him, Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and come into the land which I shall shew thee.

⁴Then came he out of the land of the Chaldaeans, and dwelt in Charran: and from thence, when his father was dead, he removed him into this land, wherein ye now dwell.

⁵And he gave him none inheritance in it, no, not so much as to set his foot on: yet he promised that he would give it to him for a possession, and to his seed after him, when as yet he had no child.

⁶And God spake on this wise, That his seed should sojourn in a strange land; and that they should bring them into bondage, and entreat them evil four hundred years.

⁷And the nation to whom they shall be in bondage will I judge, said God: and after that shall they come forth, and serve me in this place.

⁸And he gave him the covenant of circumcision: and so Abraham begat Isaac, and circumcised him the eighth day; and Isaac begat Jacob; and Jacob begat the twelve patriarchs.

I find it fascinating that God's plan for salvation included a Gentile from the beginning. This brings to mind the verses in John.

John 3: ¹⁶For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

¹⁷For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.

¹⁸He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.

How exciting it is to realize that God thought of us from the beginning! He had a plan for the salvation of the entire human race. Because a Gentile was grafted in at the beginning, salvation was ultimately brought back to the Gentiles. How awesome is that?

The question is............will you be a believer like Abraham and take God at His Word??

This is what us Southerners would say is "an oldie but a goodie".... Thank God he grafted me into his family!!

My life is full these days. Between work and college, I have the equivalent of two full-time jobs...not counting my duties as a wife and mother. This week, in particular, I have found that there is some distance between me and my heavenly Father. Partly, it is because time changed and my kids are waking up before the time when I usually have my quiet time with the Lord. I also started a temporary job that I really don't like that much. I've found myself being grouchy with my husband and my kids.

This morning, I awoke with a whisper in my heart and the word........remember. Shortly after that, the song "Roll Back the Curtain of Memory" started rolling through my mind. I opened up my Bible and turned to one of my favorite passages Colossians 3:1 If then you were raised with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ is, sitting at the right hand of God. 2 Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. 3 For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. 4 When Christ, who is our life appears, then you also will appear with Him in glory.

Life is a temporary arrangement. The people who are nearest to me are borrowed. My family here on earth is not an accident. God knew who I needed in my life and who I would need to be responsible for. Our lives here a full of troubles and trials. However, when I get to heaven, my family will be free from strife and overloaded schedules.

Greater than that is the knowledge that a perfect man with a perfect plan laid down his life for mine. Because he took my life to the cross, I now live through him. I can call God "Abba, Father" because Jesus Christ adopted me into the family. What a thrill!

The words of this song are so timely. "Remind me where you brought me from and where I could have been"........... Thank you God for the reminder of where my priorities lie.

Birds have Nests, Foxes have holes......

My friend and I were laughing recently. Apparently, our pastor was eating dinner with her and her family when he said, "The foxes have holes and the birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay His head."(Matthew 8:20) She said, "Wow, you're a poet". When he told her it was from the Bible, she was embarrassed and they all had a good laugh. It did get me thinking though.

Here I am, a wretched, hateful, unloving person, whom God had mercy on. In the last year, I very well could have been homeless if not for my parents. Now, I have a home, albeit not a nice one, a family, food to eat, shoes to wear, clothes on my back, and a job to help provide. I am very thankful for the comforts God has allowed me to have. In addition, I have a husband who is becoming more like Christ every day, children, extended family, and the best friends in the world.........and I don't deserve any of it.

Contrast that with Jesus Christ. What man was more deserving of glory? What man was more worthy of the riches of this earth? What man would have been a better husband, father, friend? And yet, during his time here on earth, he was denied every comfort. He literally did not even have a home. He WAS the homeless man on the street. He did not know where his next meal was coming from. Is it any wonder that he commands us to care for those who are in worse shape than us?

When he returns, it will be with all the splendor and glory that he deserves. What a Savior! Listen to this song. It pretty much describes how I feel about Jesus. If you don't know him, don't let the day end without surrendering your heart and life and laying them at his feet.